To contact the Religious Education Office: Robin Veronesi, Director of Religious Education. tag_id.innerHTML = ''; It is imperative both that the integrity of the NHDOJs investigation into St. Pauls School is maintained and that the Concord Police Department is permitted to execute properly its law enforcement responsibility, wrote Deputy Attorney General Jane Young in a Sept. 21, 2017, letter to Concord Police Chief Brad Osgood. By Crawfords account, his work was a successfor the school. I hope she is successful. var tag_id = document.getElementById('buylinkCrawford-CM-070520,ph1'); St Paul's is one of the most high-profile independent schools in the country and has been attended by the likes of the former chancellor George Osborne, the fertility expert Robert Winston,. I was assaulted in privilege; I have survived in privilege. The St. Paul's Schools is a family of independent schools in Baltimore County, Maryland. Id like to think that it was an impulse to self-care that sent me to the infirmary to get checked out, but I know it wasnt. I gargled the sound. Well, thats fine, I told my mom. They held her down. There could not have been a clearer instance of the ravenous paternalistic entitlement of this school, to help itself to my doctor and my privacy even in my absence. The St. Paul's Schools. But as Beyer would soon realize, Finchs past wasnt what she claimedand Beyers own difficult history was up for the taking. var photocredit = photocredit.toUpperCase(); Lacy. You know, what they did. She gripped her throat to demonstrate. When Elisabeth Finch met Jennifer Beyer in 2019, the two women forged a fiercely loyal friendship, and eventually got married. Contents: Top 0-9 A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z This is a dynamic list and may never be able to satisfy particular standards for completeness. He got his wish. My eyes were pressed shut. Ex-St. Paul's student details assault at 15 and subsequent cover-up in new memoir Lacy Crawford Courtesy 'Notes on a Silencing' by Lacy Crawford is out Tuesday. My parents came in, looking pale. The milk filled me up more than the water did. Courtesy Lacy Crawford's. A St. Paul's School education is possible for qualified students. Which also made me realize a fourth thing that she, perhaps, did not. They also concluded that they would not abide by state law and report the incident to the police. They stole your sense of self-respect and ruined your sense of boundaries.. My father was a regular reader of the lessons and served on the vestry. So Ive written what happened, exactly as I remember. In 1991, St. Pauls School, along with the law firm of Orr & Reno, threatened to destroy his daughter, a 15-year-old student who had been raped by two 18-year-old students. Bill Matthews responded calmly: How do we know she didnt give it to the boys?. I dont know yet. Now. Perhaps more of us need to get closer to the catastrophic experience of a silencing so that it stops happening, so that there will never be a need to ask a woman why now, because she will have been believed from the start. The argument of Notes on a Silencing is not that with exploration came truth. Because she lives on campusand, like all of her peers, is not allowed to leave without written consent from her advisoryou can be reasonably sure that she contracted it from another student (or, I suppose, from a faculty member or an administrator). But young Lacy Crawford instead thought of how much trouble she would get in if she screamed for help. The pediatrician did not talk to me about herpes simplex virus, those herpetic lesions meant to be treated with Zovirax. Because now I was up against an institution that subsumes human beings and presents a slick wall of rhetoric and ice where there should be thought and feeling. Dozens of teachers on campus knew me and would have been in a position to help. What could be done to address this? Crawford was still very much a girlshe tells us of how crushed she was, around that time, when she lost her childhood blanket. I took a taxi from the infirmary into town and back again, with a referral page clutched in my hand and a scarf tight around my neck. But what was there struck a note so sharp I could hear it, a chip of ice so cold it must be the hard center. I felt the tug as clots pulled away, and I felt myself swallow them. It just so happened that the delay meant that they couldnt interview the boys before they left the state. I understood language like burying it and smoking gun to belong to my mothersome fire and brimstone came naturally to her, and never more than when she felt wronged. She wrote it all down, and my pediatricians office saved this report beyond the usual threshold of a patients reaching the age of 27. He did not ask me if anything had entered or wounded my throat. Crawford is 29 years old when an ex-boyfriend calls to ask if he should be worried that he contracted herpes from her. At some point I made the necessary formal statement over the phone that I did not wish the police to move forward with criminal charges. Construction manager CNY recently erected an eight-foot high fence around the perimeter of the St. Paul's building for safety reasons. Why now? wonders the man who as a sixth former (St. Pauls speak for seniors) lured Crawford to his room with a deceitful tale of woe (something terrible had happened to his mother and he needed help). Crawford was prepared to testify before the grand jury but the call from the attorney generals office never came. His own daughter was sleeping in Crawfords room at the time. Crawford enrolled at St. Pauls School in the fall of 1989, graduating in 1992. In her 11th-grade year, Crawford was raped by two seniors. I was not invited into the library for the call, so I stayed upstairs in my room, with my door closed, and stared out the window over our driveway. They remained in the dark. I knew the morality but not the mechanism. Shamus Khan is professor of sociology at Columbia University and author, with Jennifer S. Hirsch, of Sexual Citizens: A Landmark Study of Sex, Power, and Assault on Campus (W.W. Norton). I do not know the substance of these conversations, but in the third week of May, the school psychologist, Reverend S., Vice Rector Bill Mathews, and the rector, Kelly Clark, sat down with the schools legal counsel and arrived at the formal conclusion that, despite what I had claimed, and despite the statutory laws on the books in their state, the encounter between me and the boys had been consensual. Those still surviving, no doubt, continue to maintain their goodness. Osgood told the Monitor that he is aware of a records request made by Crawford in January 2018. '"; Courtesy Subscribe Today, We've got nowhere else to go Concord family homeless once again after temporary apartment stay, Unpredictability and economic viability are stressors to farmer mental health, For Alex Ray, altruisim is a common theme, We've got nowhere else to go Concord family homeless once again after temporary apartment stay, Concord Monitor Recent Obituaries: All of Concord Monitor's Recent Obituaries, Theres a new restaurant coming to Concord, with a familiar name and location, Avian flu is here and is a danger to cats and dogs as well as poultry. What interests me is not what happened. So after chapel I cut left out of the door, away from the students and teachers streaming up toward the Schoolhouse, and headed along the brick path to the infirmary perched on the hill. For a long time, that shame was Crawfords. Back in Lake Forest, home for the summer before senior year, Mom took me to see my pediatrician. I have had to put together these few weeks from documents that remain: medical reports and what has been shared with me of the criminal case file from 1991. Nothing really changes about the story of that first rape, presented in the opening pages of the book. She tries to run by him, and he sticks his tongue down her throat. In todays dark and dangerous world, Reverend Clark said, on occasion of his 1982 appointment to St. Pauls, the graduates of St. Pauls are summoned to a stewardship of light and peace. School language soared in the direction of the Anglican heaven. I saw the notes; I got the medical records; I saw what the school did to me and the breathtaking entitlement that men had in simply making a statutory crime disappear.. The school never told the police. They chose not to inform the police. Want to make the question of Why now? obsolete? She said she believes Giles is first and foremost trying to serve students in the schools care now, and that she is working with Giles because she shares that goal. Lacy Crawfords yearbook entry at St. Paul's School in 1992. Youre devastated. Maybe, multiple physicians told me years later, it was just that the sores were so deep. These men in power, however, worked not to protect the young, but to protect the rights that came with power and status. At the very least, somebody calls me and says, This is the problem we have with your story; this is how were trying to find justice for you and for all the students at the school. But none of that happened.. I was baptized in the same church where my parents were married and my grandparents would one day be buried. Remarkable, given that I had not a single sore in my mouth. Now my mother was looking at me imploringly. In her memoir, Crawford describes in detail how she felt feverish and how her throat was raw and bleeding, making it painful to eat and talk. View the profiles of people named Rick Banner. In 2018, Pook pleaded guilty to misdemeanor charges for conspiring with an ex-student to lie under oath during the attorney generals grand jury proceedings. 2634. Its actually not that complicated. School officials had known about the sexual contactCrawford was given herpes by one of her rapistsand had known that legally this was statutory rape. Tonsils normal, perfectly clear. My father had made it very clear to the schools lawyer that he expected this. He was powerful and popular. The priests knew, the teachers knew, the deans knew. Unless you were willing to manufacture accusations to poison the place for her and poison her for it. var photocredit = "'Courtesy' 'Lacy Crawford'"; Everyone knew. As the village continues to assess what to do with the shuttered St. Paul's School for Boys, trustees have . Just a phone message taken in the middle of the summer in 1991. I have been told that this happened both on the lacrosse field and in a teachers apartment. This time the erasure was committed by men whose power over me was socially conferred rather than physically wielded, some of them who had never even been in a room with me. Crawford had yet to have sex. I did not contact Concord police and report my assault ever. Wool boucl in spring. Only five starters return with seniors Codi Johnson and Natalie Little providing experience on the defensive end. The idea that I sold that or any other drug was insane. It was the schools inhumanity that I could notcannotovercome. var currentLocation = window.location; Would the school be talking to the parents of the boys? This time, the infirmary sent me to see an ear-nose-and-throat doctor in Concord, a proper physician. Not her parents. I have told it to parents and friends and therapists. Ad Choices. That overseer remains at St. Pauls today. So I discounted this news a bit, automatically, on account of rhetoric. As part of the settlement, signed in September 2018, St. Pauls agreed to waive any claim of confidentiality in the grand jury proceedings to allow for the attorney general to release a public report at a later date. There was a St. Pauls student in the nineteenth century who reported to the infirmary one morning with a sore throat and was dead the next day. Mom worried about getting her nails done before celebrating the Eucharist. Hm, said the nurse. The terrified 15-year-old Lacy Crawford knew well what many of us are still unwilling to admit to ourselves. Ten days or so after it happened, my throat began to hurt in a jagged way, as though I had swallowed a piece of glass. And she knew what would happen if shed served as a witness to her violation. This article is about alumni of St Paul's School, Concord. The boys had graduated and were no longer under the schools supervision. To which Id reply: Youd be surprised what a kid can find it unimaginable to say. Oh my God, I said. var currentheadline = document.getElementById("headline").innerText; Linen or silk in summer. We had always been churchgoers, every Sunday at 9 a.m., unless you were actively vomiting. //LBtag_id.innerHTML = ''; The school had failed this first test. I have always remembered. Risking significant discipline but imagining she could somehow help this young man, Crawford went to his room. I have files a few inches thick, each off-center page reproduced from the scanned originals, that record my passage from place to place, each time opening my mouth in the hope that someone would see.